Hi everyone.
Mini Update
I’ve had a bit of a traumatic week at work, and am feeling a bit drained by it all. I apologise in advance if it all goes a bit quite on the blogging front for the next few hours. I want to power up my batteries before I start blogging like a little demon again!
More About What’s Going On With Me
On a separate note to the above, I just want to get a few things off my chest about this blog.
Firstly, to the vitriolic people who have made personal attacks when they disagree with my content; I would like to point out that I am not TMZ or a big agency, I am a small independent and very new blogger. I blog for fun and expect nothing in return. I am human and I make mistakes. Sometimes, I post a little, sometimes I post a lot. Sometimes I post really nice chatty articles, sometimes my posting is effected by having a bad day, and I am more cutting or tongue in cheek with what I write… Since you commented, I have made one notable edit to the Janet Jackson post, after a (rude) commenter pointed out an error. In addition, I removed a rather controversial post altogether! I wont bother saying which, as it defeats the object, but regular/ eagle-eyed readers will know of which I speak. This was taken down by request. A very nice (read, polite) commenter made a fair point and I responded accordingly (you know who you are- sorry honey, you ended up in my spam filter and you got deleted by mistake, I thank you for your notice x).
On the corrections and removal front, I wanted to say this…
I admit my error, and changed it right away.
On a separate post, I took the whole thing down, to avoid hurting anybody’s feelings.
I am always quick to make edits if I am flat out wrong, I am not claiming to be perfect!
Secondly, I would like to point out something I have realised about myself and the way I write…
I started this blog to vent personal frustration, therefore, I hope it is somewhat understandable that every word is motivated by my mood.
It has become apparent that as my personal life has slipped, my posts have developed quite an (ahem) edge to them. This was neither conscious, deliberate, or meant to hurt or offend anybody.
I was thinking today about why I started blogging and what I wanted to blog about. I was originally motivated to reach people and connect in a way my life doesn’t allow. However, I may have subconsciously gotten wrapped up in posting and checking stats obsessively. I have found I do three things in particular which may be rather odd. I check my blog/ stats as a matter of course; when I first wake, I check again when I return from work, and then again right before I sleep. I miss blogging when I am at work and on occasion find it hard to focus on other things that are more important. I find that I am now distracted by developing the blog and other things that have no bearing on my raison d’etre.
Going forward I want to make a few things known…
- I will continue to moderate comments, when kind bloggers write thoughtful posts/ are kind enough to reach out to me in a time of need, this is when they are given free reign to comment as they like or even continue private discussions via email. I, as always, will ‘approve’ posts even when views conflict with mine… I will not, however, allow people to speak to me online in a manner that I would not tolerate in real life. Aggressive, bullying, vindictive, rude, or threatening comments will never see the light of day!
- I will have a mini audit of my site (whatever I have time for over the holidays), to ensure that my blog is healthy and as it should be.
- When I post I will endeavour to be more kind, thoughtful, and positive (it’ll be interesting to see how hard that is when I am in a bad mood). I will try to give the more satirical or cheeky posts, a fun or positive spin in some way, to make the tone of the postings more consistent.
I hope this takes me back to where I want to be, a blogger that writes when they are truly inspired by what they see around them; someone who writes about the silly eclectic topics that others may not have heard of, someone whose only concern is becoming mentally stronger and healthier, and who truly enjoys all of the elements of blogging (and not someone so stressed by catty, threatening, poisonous, comments that they take whole posts down to make life more pleasant).
I really value every individual reader that comes onto this site. Each person’s reason for coming here is different , but valid. I value every comment, I would not trade the comments I get for 50 spammy types the other sites suffer.
I genuinely love posting, which is why I do it so often(!). However, I have put myself in a weird little place after a month, where I feel self-induced pressure to blog a lot and every day. From now on, the total posts for the week will be around the same, as I blog sporadically, but I may take the odd day off to focus on other things.
I thank you all for your kindness, for listening, for sticking with me, and for really understanding what I meant when I said I was rough around the edges.
I feel I want to start the new year with a fresh start both online and off.
P.S I welcome your comments on my ‘word-vomit’ 
Love and Hugs
TheLostGirl
xxx
December 14, 2007
My Feelings on Blogging & Moving Forward
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Hi everyone.
Mini Update
I’ve had a bit of a traumatic week at work, and am feeling a bit drained by it all. I apologise in advance if it all goes a bit quite on the blogging front for the next few hours. I want to power up my batteries before I start blogging like a little demon again!
More About What’s Going On With Me
On a separate note to the above, I just want to get a few things off my chest about this blog.
Firstly, to the vitriolic people who have made personal attacks when they disagree with my content; I would like to point out that I am not TMZ or a big agency, I am a small independent and very new blogger. I blog for fun and expect nothing in return. I am human and I make mistakes. Sometimes, I post a little, sometimes I post a lot. Sometimes I post really nice chatty articles, sometimes my posting is effected by having a bad day, and I am more cutting or tongue in cheek with what I write… Since you commented, I have made one notable edit to the Janet Jackson post, after a (rude) commenter pointed out an error. In addition, I removed a rather controversial post altogether! I wont bother saying which, as it defeats the object, but regular/ eagle-eyed readers will know of which I speak. This was taken down by request. A very nice (read, polite) commenter made a fair point and I responded accordingly (you know who you are- sorry honey, you ended up in my spam filter and you got deleted by mistake, I thank you for your notice x).
On the corrections and removal front, I wanted to say this…
I admit my error, and changed it right away.
On a separate post, I took the whole thing down, to avoid hurting anybody’s feelings.
I am always quick to make edits if I am flat out wrong, I am not claiming to be perfect!
Secondly, I would like to point out something I have realised about myself and the way I write…
I started this blog to vent personal frustration, therefore, I hope it is somewhat understandable that every word is motivated by my mood.
It has become apparent that as my personal life has slipped, my posts have developed quite an (ahem) edge to them. This was neither conscious, deliberate, or meant to hurt or offend anybody.
I was thinking today about why I started blogging and what I wanted to blog about. I was originally motivated to reach people and connect in a way my life doesn’t allow. However, I may have subconsciously gotten wrapped up in posting and checking stats obsessively. I have found I do three things in particular which may be rather odd. I check my blog/ stats as a matter of course; when I first wake, I check again when I return from work, and then again right before I sleep. I miss blogging when I am at work and on occasion find it hard to focus on other things that are more important. I find that I am now distracted by developing the blog and other things that have no bearing on my raison d’etre.
Going forward I want to make a few things known…
I hope this takes me back to where I want to be, a blogger that writes when they are truly inspired by what they see around them; someone who writes about the silly eclectic topics that others may not have heard of, someone whose only concern is becoming mentally stronger and healthier, and who truly enjoys all of the elements of blogging (and not someone so stressed by catty, threatening, poisonous, comments that they take whole posts down to make life more pleasant).
I really value every individual reader that comes onto this site. Each person’s reason for coming here is different , but valid. I value every comment, I would not trade the comments I get for 50 spammy types the other sites suffer.
I genuinely love posting, which is why I do it so often(!). However, I have put myself in a weird little place after a month, where I feel self-induced pressure to blog a lot and every day. From now on, the total posts for the week will be around the same, as I blog sporadically, but I may take the odd day off to focus on other things.
I thank you all for your kindness, for listening, for sticking with me, and for really understanding what I meant when I said I was rough around the edges.
I feel I want to start the new year with a fresh start both online and off.
P.S I welcome your comments on my ‘word-vomit’
Love and Hugs
TheLostGirl
xxx